Avoid Being Unlucky In Love!

Are you unlucky in love or do you always unconsciously repeat the same pattern? You must start giving yourself more value and learn to say “no” when necessary.

Many people complain of having bad luck in love, however, is it bad luck that comes to us, without being able to do anything to avoid it, or do we look for it?

Personally, I consider that, regarding relationships, the second option is the correct one. Especially when we protest because we always meet the same type of person or because they do not respect us or do not love us as we would like.

Given this we have a lot to say about that supposed bad luck in love.

Repeat the same pair pattern

When we repeat the same relationship pattern we are not having bad luck in love, but we are blind to realize that we do not learn from relationships and we always make the same mistakes.

If we are always with people who verbally attack us, why does the relationship last so long? It is true that, at first, in the infatuation phase, the other person can be very nice and then change.

It is in this change that we must not let one pass. At the first lack of respect or verbal abuse we have to leave with our heads held high.

What happens is that, excusing ourselves under the word “love”, we endure this situation with this couple, with the one that comes and with the next one. However, the result is always the same.

We would have to reflect on certain errors that are only our responsibility, but for which we blame the other without being really aware:

• Expect it to change: I give it one chance, two or three if necessary. The love I feel for that person is so great (or so I think) that I hope they change their attitude. But surprise! It does not change.
• Expectations too high: I want him to be my perfect partner, the only one in my life, my better half and, for that, I will fight and endure whatever it takes, because it has to be perfect for me.

• The first time it doesn’t affect me as much: the first time he yells at me it doesn’t affect me, but by the tenth time I may be fed up. Better not miss one. Otherwise, what we allow will become custom.

Unconsciously choosing your partner causes bad luck in love

Bad luck in love can also be present when we do not consciously choose our partners. This often means that we simply do not choose.

The first person to notice us is done. We did not even consider rejecting him because what a good gesture he has made looking at us!

This denotes a very great lack of self-esteem. We have to know how to say “no”. We have to know if we want to have a relationship with the person in front of us.

Do you think it is impossible that you can like who you like? Do you wait for someone to notice you first before you notice that person?

If this is so, it is not bad luck in love, what you have is a low self-esteem that you need to pamper, take care of and pay close attention to.

Having a partner at all costs

Bad luck in love can come from other paths and it is that we do not take time to find someone with whom we want to be. As a consequence, we don’t take time to be alone either.

This results in an obsession with having a partner and a concern that is fueled by the environment and society in general.

Having a partner is synonymous with happiness. Having a partner means starting a family and being happy. If it is so important, why are there so many unhappy couples? Because they do not act consciously.

You have no obligation to have a partner. No matter how old you are. Abandon the beliefs of “the rice is going to pass”, “I am no longer of age to get married” and all that nonsense that does nothing but harm.

Having bad luck in love brings many headaches, because we are stumbling over and over again with the same stone.

Let’s not get obsessed with having a partner. Let’s stop repeating the same relationship pattern by blinding ourselves in the infatuation phase and allowing things that transgress our limits. Let us choose consciously.

Finally, with these tips, we will stop having bad luck in love.