How To Stop Yelling At Children?

Can’t stop yelling at the kids? Parents, sometimes, due to our responsibilities and occupations, we end up losing control with the smallest of the home. However, they are not to blame for our frustrations.

Yelling at children can lead to low self-esteem or, conversely, they end up always getting defensive. They will learn to act in the same way, which will lead to a negative teaching: that they do not know how to listen. As evidenced by this study published in the Ibero-American Journal of Education, we have to be the child’s role model.

So how can we stop yelling at them? Here are some keys to achieve it. Take note of all of them!

How to stop yelling at children?

Discover the situations in which you lose control

The first thing we must do to avoid yelling at children is to recognize that we have a control problem. If we do not assume this from the beginning, we will not be able to solve anything.

Sometimes we don’t want to see the reality of things; However, the consequences of our actions do not impact us, but those little people who are not to blame for situations getting out of hand.

The first step is to analyze all those occasions in which we have lost control and we have yelled at our children. This will allow us to see which pattern is true. For example, we may always yell at them when we have just come home from work or after an argument with our partner.

Being aware of this will not only help us to control ourselves more, but also to resolve that situation that causes us such a state of irascibility. In this way, we too can benefit from this learning.

Above all, we do not have to blame ourselves, as it is normal to lose our temper after an intense stressful work session or after an argument in which emotions are running high. We have time to solve this and act better, so let’s go!

Beware of expectations

Expectations always play tricks on us, especially when we expect others to act as we think they should.

This is a common situation that happens with children. To begin with, because we assume that there are many things you should know. However, this is not the case.

For example, if our son throws a glass on the ground because he wanted to experience what would happen and did not know that it was bad, we can yell at him, telling him off for something that he just did not know.

Children still do not know many of the rules by which this world is governed and, many times, they learn them by screaming. This, at times, can have a devastating effect, such as being repressed, having insecurities and a lot of fear.

Likewise, it is believed that, by yelling at children, parents will be able to solve the problems they have caused, however, as evidenced by this research published in the journal Child Development , parents yelling at their children worsen behavior of the little ones.

Let’s think before we act. It is necessary that we take some time to reflect before jumping to the minimum. We must bring more calm, peace and serenity to our life. Our expectations prevent us from seeing the true reality of what is happening and causes us to be unfair to the smallest of the home.

Think before act

As we have already mentioned, it is necessary not to act like that suddenly in a situation that is causing us sensations that urge us to explode and jump in an unexpected and aggressive way.

Better take a moment. Leave the room where the child is, if necessary, take a little air, breathe, calm down and observe the situation from another perspective.

When emotions invade us, we do not reason or think. We just feel, shout and express ourselves without any control over what we are doing or saying.

If we take time, we will discover many things that we were not aware of. For example, that we had high expectations, that our son did not know that he could not do this or that or that our anger was not caused by this situation, but by another that has occurred previously.

With willpower, we will stop yelling at the children

Yelling at children is a very negative way of setting an example and that, if we set our minds, we can solve without any problem. We just need willpower and the desire to change this attitude that can have serious consequences for the little ones. They are not to blame for all the problems that we face in our day-to-day lives. And you, what are you waiting for to start the change?