Sometimes, When Someone Brings You Close To The Abyss, You Discover That You Can Fly

When someone brings you closer to the abyss in an emotional relationship, you are likely to feel a deep discomfort. The pangs of pain set in and you begin to detect that such a situation wears you down more and more.

We are talking, without a doubt, of those types of ties that affect one’s own well-being. Those ties that in the end damage the self-esteem of those who suffer it, taking them to the limit and thinking that everything is lost.

However, sometimes “hitting bottom” is just the spring that makes you see that you have wings, that it is possible to fly and reach other destinations. We invite you to consider these reflections below.

When someone brings you close to the abyss …

Sometimes being in a relationship ends up being synonymous with unhappiness and discomfort. That initial illusion towards the other person ends up becoming a dead end from which one does not know how to get out.

This is a common experience that can happen to anyone. However, far from being ashamed or punished for it, there is the option of using this experience as a way to get to know oneself better.

In other words, it is an opportunity for everyone to bet on what they really deserve, which is to feel loved and respected at all times.

Resilience when someone brings you closer to the abyss

Faced with that cliff of defenselessness, resilience acts just as a support to overcome adversity.

• In those moments of emotional suffering, you feel that you have reached your own limits. You say to yourself that “I can’t anymore . “
• Now, if you accompany that phrase of “So far I have come”,  you will be in a better disposition to initiate a change.
• Beyond the grief and tears, this is the opportunity to spread your wings and recover all that you were before : someone with optimism, self-esteem and who valued himself enough to get up and continue moving forward.

By using that inner strength, it will be easier for you to deal with pain, loss or disappointment. Thus, when someone brings you closer to the abyss, this ability to find breath in the dark will help you take flight.

The pain that causes changes to move forward

You have it. Believe it or not, you also have that courage. However, to apply it, it may be useful to consider keys such as the following:

• Pain is part of the life cycle, which means assuming the possibility that some people will disappoint you.
• These difficulties will put you to the test, approaching you step by step towards that void from which you will want to get out.

• But getting there doesn’t mean you’re weak or made a mistake.
• It is only a path in which you trusted, although now the circumstances show you that perhaps there are other more appropriate alternatives.

So react, change course, spread your wings.

• You will suffer for a while, but the simple act of taking action and moving away from what hurts you is a decision that will soon reinforce you.
• Little by little, you will feel that it hurts less, the wounds will heal and you will find yourself again.

When you discover that you can fly

You are everything that you have been overcoming year after year. Behind the story that you have been building, there are battles that only you know and that, at the same time, define you.

• Approaching more than a cliff along your own path means that you have dared to live. That you have taken risks because you thought it was worth it.
• Getting around them, as well as avoiding those painful and unhappy relationships are experiences that give you wisdom and perspective in the face of future challenges.
• Because resilience is that emotional parachute that teaches you to face this complex world in which joys are not always guaranteed.

Still, diverting attention from those bonds that damage you and lead you to the void seems an unhealthy choice. Look inside yourself and remember that you deserve to be happy again. The next opportunity opens beyond the abyss …