The Moment To Let Go Of Control And Embrace Life

Is it hard for you to let go of control? Nothing happens, society has taught us to prioritize our expectations, believing that whatever we think or imagine is likely to happen.

However, sometimes we are confronted with adversity.  Problems, obstacles that we did not expect and that hinder the path that we have decided to travel. We cannot bear that anything goes out of what we had planned in advance .  That frustrates us, makes us feel sad and even victims.

Control is nothing but fear

Letting go of control is a very difficult action to carry out. Well, behind it, fear is very present. One of the most paralyzing emotions and, at the same time, most illusory.

What are we afraid of? Maybe things don’t go as planned. That there is some stone that hinders us or that some barrier rises before us to put us to the test.

• If something goes out of the script of our expectations, we begin to tremble, to doubt and we feel lost.
• We had everything well planned. However, as soon as something, a tiny part of a whole, falls out of place, our world reverses.
• Having everything under control does not guarantee that things will happen as we imagine them. Nor that we are going to have great success in achieving those goals that we have set for ourselves.

So letting go of control is important to learning to accept things as they come.  In order not to fall into the terrible trap of expectations and plunge into illusions that will only remain in that.

You have to open your eyes. Stop crying out to heaven for our bad luck and start letting go of control, which is nothing more than the result of great fear. Fear of losing, that nothing goes according to plan, that setbacks arise or that all work has been in vain.

Excessive care and control will not always provide the expected results

Sometimes we get too involved in relationships, work or other aspects of our life giving it our all, trying too hard. However, in the end, none of this pays off.

The following short exemplifies very well what we are talking about. It offers us an insight into the great importance of letting go of control when we are so stubborn not to:

In the short that we have visualized we can see how the eagerness of the little Buddhist monk to attend to that flower that he has believed to rescue from the storm causes it to end up withering.

He forgets about the other flowers. He focuses only on her, overprotecting her, giving her his full attention, possessing her, preventing her from being free and from her being able to face her own problems without anyone having to fight for her.

That flower that appears in the short can symbolize a relationship where possession is understood as synonymous with love. It can also be that child we do not let fly out of the nest or that job that we try so hard for because of our fear of losing it.

Our fear ends up preventing the other from breathing, from being as they are and from having their own freedom. We burn out for a good cause without realizing that we are doing no good to the object of our full attention and care.

Love involves letting go of control

Loving a person or a flower, as we saw in the short, implies accepting its nature and letting it be. The moment we want to retain it, possess it, change it, make it ours and make it adapt to us, then we get angry, because nothing is as we thought.

Sometimes we help others by believing that we are doing them a favor. When, indeed,  the real favor is to let them face their problems alone.  Let them empower themselves by standing up to them, because otherwise we will limit them and they will wither away.

We have been taught since we were little that love is possession, control, anxiety, stress, worry … We have become controlling people, who only focus on a person or a job. Ultimately, we can lend them our support, but always without restricting their own freedom.

There is nothing else after that. We make that our life, to the point that our existence begins to depend on the value we have given to that possession that we have appropriated.

Letting go of control is allowing, it is loving and it is preventing something beautiful from ending up withering. He won’t do it because of him, but because of our great fear. Because of our fear of losing that to which we have given great value. The one that we do not believe we deserve.